First off, this was intended for Tuesday, but it took me longer to compile than I’d planned…picking out sex toys is delicate work Anyway, we’ll call this one ‘Super Sex Toy Thursday’, or maybe ‘The Thursday edition of Super Sex Toy Tuesday’…either way, here it is:

Ok, so over at sextoys.com, there’s this contest going on that I could not resist participating in Ginger Leigh’s Fabulous Shopping Spree! Basically, anyone has the opportunity to win $1000 of free toys from sextoys.com, all you have to do is post your list to your blog (make sure to follow the rules, though, so you don’t miss out). My list includes 27 items and is as follows:

Love Pillow - Because it’s always nice to have a dedicated tool to assist in positioning

Clit exciter (pink) – Who can say no to multi-speed, glittered and waterproof clitoral specialization?

Whisper Micro Heated Pink - I’ve never had a toy with a remote, let alone a heated toy with a remote.

Rubber Cote Remote Egg – OK, so I’m kind of a techno-geek and remote controls excite me, especially when they work from a 35 foot range.

Good Time Vibe Pink – Because I’m a huge fan of waterproof toys and dual stimulation.

Little Su Natural Dildo – Black – Because it looks cool, it provides G-Spot AND clitoral stimulation, PLUS, designed by a woman…can’t go wrong.

We Vibe- I’ve always wanted one of these, I love experimenting and this toy is perfect for just that and more.

Dildo Boro Glass G Spot Pink – I love glass, yet I do not own a glass toy…seems wrong.

Don Wands Clear Nubby Swirl – Again, I love glass, so I may as well just go for straight for two, don’t you think?

Royal Balls (Lemon) – I’ve always been curious about the whole balls you can wear anywhere thing and these look like a perfect first set.

Eden Waterproof Body Blossom – I love interesting shapes, and this toy meets that criteria. Plus, it’s waterproof, which by now you can tell I’m quite fond of (hey, as a single mom, shower time is one of the few places I ever get to be alone…with the door locked)

Soft Leather Ankle Restraints Red/Black – You can really never have too many sets of cuffs, and these are black and red and buckley goodness.

Leather Bondage Belt /Cuffs – Small – I love multi-taskers and this belt not only allows you to be buckled to it, but can be transformed into cuffs!

Passion Belt – Because having my hands attached to my waist is restrictive in all the perfect ways.

Plushy Gear Lover’s Harness – Because I love the handles.

Fetish Fantasy Bed Restraint Bondage Kit – Because being tied to the bed and blindfolded heightens senses you forget you have.

Love Connections – Because nothing says ‘I trust you’ more then having your hands tied behind your back from a collar.

Thigh Cuffs – Because my current thigh cuffs allow for a lot of movement and these ones seem more restrictive–and I like that.

Fetish Fantasy Series Vibrating Nipple Clamp – Vibrating, nipples and clamp…just the words get me all excited.

Devinn Lane’s Waterproof Nipple Arousers – Um, because, as you may have figured out by now, I like to play in the water, and I don’t want my nipples to feel left out.

Sensual Hot Wax – I enjoy the warming, muscle relaxing heat that is induced by a little hot wax.

Black Light Body Paint Encounter – Because art class was always one of my favorites, and when you add the whole glow in the dark element, well you just can’t go wrong.

Love Stuff Body Butter (Very Cherry) – Having lubrication options, particularly flavored lubrication options, allows for some creative expression while making things run smoothly.

Kama Sutra Weekender Kit – It’s always nice to have some portable fun ready to stuff in your overnight bag for that last minute romantic night away.

Pink Dirty Dice – Because games are fun and dirty games are more fun.

Erotique Sexy Fishnet Top with G-String – So, I was in danceline in high school and have had a thing for fishnet ever since.

Gun Oil Lubricant 8 oz. – Because lubrication is always good to have on hand, and this one is good for use with silicone too.

All of this adds up to a grand total of: $996.93

If you want your own chance to win $1000 of free toys, check out the rules here.

I also try and treat myself to a little something on this special day each year. Yes, we all deserve to treat ourselves now and again, and Mother’s Day is one of those perfect opportunities. And, when it comes to treating myself, I like to get in touch with my feminine side–lingerie, particularly lingerie of the leather persuasion, helps me get there.

If treating yourself to something that makes you feel like the sexy mama that you are, you should check out the new listings at MadameBella – lingerie that demands attention. The ‘Featured Products’ on the home page include the newest listings (and include the Leather 1/4 Cup Corset pictured). Or, maybe, after the kids are in bed, a nice relaxing bath with Massage Oils that dissolve in water or a lots and lots of bubble’s from a deliciously scented Bubble Bath and some candles…

Whatever you choose to do to treat yourself on Mother’s Day, I wish all of my fellow Moms out there a Happy Mom’s–Motherhood Rocks!

Mother’s day will be upon us before you know it. As we wait for May 10 to arrive, I encourage you all to get a little something for yourself this Mother’s Day. You deserve it!

Why not pick out something you’ve always wanted to try? Or something that is just as pretty as it is functional, like the Shiny Orglassm. If there’s something you’ve have had your eye on trying or even if you’ve never owned a sex toy before, now you have the perfect excuse to get your very own Rock-chick massager.

I, myself, am a huge fan of clitoral simulators and this little baby not only has some great reviews, but it is well within my new budget:

Plus, it’s waterproof and I’m a big fan of fun in the tub.

Anyway, If you do treat yourself to a new sex toy, remember that  Mother’s Day is your day. Celebrate the daylight hours with those cute, short people that call you mom, but once they’re in bed, take some time to remember you’re a woman too. You’ll be an even better Mom the next morning, trust me

Happy Early Mother’s Day!!!

The good news is, sex is free, and it’s fun! Plus, although new lingerie, toys and props are nice additions, there are plenty of things around the house that you can use to liven up any evening. Following are a few ideas I’ve put together and categorized by ‘type.’ I know there are plenty more, the important thing is to be creative to keep that budget in-line while still keeping things in the bedroom hot

Romance/Mood Setting Items:

Candles – Most everyone has at least one candle around the house, but most likely more. Just gather ‘em all together and create your own candle-lit love den.
Lotion – I own like 5+ different kinds of scented lotions, and I think most women do. Rubbing each other down is a great way to get in some touch time.
Baby Oil – If you have kids, you inevitably have a bottle of this laying around. It makes a nice massage oil.
Flowers – For those of you with a garden in bloom, bundle up some flowers in a vase and add them to the aforementioned, candle-lite love den.
Bubble Bath – If you happen to be lucky enough to have a bathtub that holds two comfortably, fill ‘er up and soak together. Otherwise pamper your lover with a nice hot bath followed-by a relaxing massage.

Sexy Stuff:

Lingerie – whatever you already have is still just as hat as when you first got it, so make sure to use those sexy pieces in your collection.
His Clothes – Does he have a neck-tie, or a button down shirt? Or maybe jacket? If you wear something of his with nothing underneath…well you get the idea.
Apron – Of course this has a hint of the whole french maid thing, but if you have an apron, why not put it to use for more than cooking?
Heels – If you’ve got some sexy heels, remember they’re good for bedroom use as well. Pair them with lingerie, or his neck-time, or that apron…or nothing

Sexy Food:

Whip Cream – Yeah, yeah, I know, but it is sexy, and it’s nice to pair as a dip of you’re going to use it to feed to your lover (see, you though I was going to suggest eating it off them…well you could do that too).
Chocolate – Chocolate, to me, is heavenly and those who feed it to me deserve special attention, perhaps your mate feels the same way?
Fruit – chocolate covered strawberries come to mind, perhaps with whip cream. Or grapes. Feeding each other sexy food (and sipping on wine) is a nice way to begin romantic alone time.
Ice – Ice is best for use during the summer (for those of us in cooler climates). Running a cool cube across your lover body is a sexy way to cool them down.

For those who like Restraints:

Neck ties – After making your entrance in nothing but his neck tie, put it to use. A tie works well to tie arms together or to bedposts.
Scarves – Scarves look pretty and, just like a neck tie, work wonderfully to tie things together. They also serve well as blindfolds.
Belts – A great multitasker (see ‘For those who like Spanking’).
Dish Towels – I’d pair one of those white linen, embroidered dish towels with an apron for a complete cooking theme–they work as blindfolds or as ties. You could even incorporate food–a blindfolded taste test, or maybe tie your lovers arms behind their back and feed them chocolate covered strawberries.

For those who like Spanking:

Belts – Leather belts are always great for supplying that spine-tingling sting that some of us love.
Wooden Spoon – Another possible addition to that kitchen theme
Brush – A perfect paddle-like tool that provides lots of control for the spanker, and lots of sparks for the spankee.

Remember, sex is one important element that helps couples keep the connection, allowing their relationship to grow together. Despite the economy, we have to find ways to get that alone time we need, even on a budget.

I encourage all of you to get creative and have some fun exploring romantic, sexy ideas that cost little to nothing.

Now, they’d be super cute with a skirt or pants, but, as you all know, I prefer to save my heels for the bedroom, and I think they’d be perfect with a sparkly bra and panty set, or even with just a sparkly waist chain, or maybe a sparkly choker….I could go on, but I think you can see the sparkly place I’m coming from–they’re perfect for any type of Spring mood you may be in

P.S. I realize I probably just jinxed all of Minnesota to another blizzard with that ‘no snow comment, I’m knocking on wood right now.

P.P.S. They also come in Pink, the shoes that is.

Overall I give it a thumbs up, it’s a great way to spice up a massage.

Rainbow Nights Paddle
Next, the Rainbow nights paddle. It’s black leather with a cool embroidered pattern on one side and is visually, very appealing. It’s easy to handle and the spankings provided are the perfect sting, ranging from a little spark to an electrifying slap– the spanker can easily control the force, providing as much or as little as required. If your an entry level spanker, or more advanced, this paddle is non-intimidating and serves its purpose beautifully.

I give it another thumbs up, as a nice addition to any spanking connoisseurs collection.

Thigh and Wrist Cuff Set
We’ll close out the reviews with a nice little restraint. This Thigh and Wrist Cuff Set was lots of fun and was very comfortable. The neoprene was durable and the velcro was strong. They are adjustable, which worked well for my curvaceous thighs. The clips that attached the cuff part to the thigh part did there job well, however, I had more freedom of movement than I expected. I couldn’t reach up, but I could easily reach myself . I also like that because they are not permanently attached together, each of the pieces could be used separately with other accessories.

If your looking for good multi-use restraints, and aren’t concerned with the looseness of the range of movement, this is a great set. Another thumbs up here.

I purchased each of these fun toys at <a href=”http://www.edenfantasys.com/#pcode-CG7″>EdenFantasys adult toys store</a>. They provide a wide variety of toys and accessories from mild to wild, as well as lots of great information. When you’re ready to try these or any other toys to enhance your sex life, I encourange you to check ‘em out.

One of the women in the group got me thinking, however, when she stated that ‘experimentation’ sounded scary to her, something she wouldn’t want to do. Perhaps it’s just because she really isn’t a part of the market I aim to serve or maybe the word ‘experimentation’ conjures up images of test tubes with Dr’s in white coats and restraints (which honestly, might be an interesting little role play, put I digress). Needless to say, the word ‘experimentation’ or any derivative thereof is not in my final draft–I’ve decided that ‘Explore’ would serve as a sole replacement rather than a partner in the statement. Here it is:

Because Bella Out Loud knows that Moms have sex too, we are dedicated to helping them keep their relationship spicy by providing information, resources and tools that support them as they explore and have fun with sex while strengthening the bond with their partner.

That pretty well sums up my mission for this site. I hope you all can clearly see why BellaOutLoud is here. I’m not here to scare anyone, but I’m am fairly liberal in my tips and advice. I’m here to help you spice it up and strengthen bonds with your lover, knowing full well that you have kids, a home and most likely a job to take care of too.

Anyway, I’ve gone on long enough about my mission to help moms have hot sex lives. BUT, I’m working on my focused goals for the year to support this mission, so keep your eyes open.

If you have any thoughts or questions, please post ‘em in a comment.

And, I encourage everyone to answer a few questions to help me make sure I’m giving you what you want.

Thanks!

Anyway, while I wait for true, consistent Spring days to arrive, I like to dream up indoor ‘picnics’ of my own. The following is my late night desert picnic. It’s great for anytime of the day, but if you have kids, it’s perfect for once they’ve fallen asleep.

What you’ll need:
-Suntouched edible massage candles. I recommend some additional candles as well, to ensure a romantic mood.

-One of your favorite pieces of lingerie. Something like this Black & Red Chiffon Baby Doll is perfect.
-A selection of fresh fruit, including chocolate covered strawberries, just cuz they’re super hot . Make sure not to select something too heavy or it’ll disrupt the ‘activities’ that should follow desert.
-A bottle of wine.
-Music is optional, but something instrumental in the background is always romantic.

To make sure you’re ready when the moment is right, prepare your fruit platter eariler in day, or the night before, and store it in the fridge. Then, once the time has approached the first thing you’ll do is get all fancied up. Put on your hot lingerie, sex up your hair and make sure your make-up is all smoldery. Next, set-up and light all your candles and get the wine glasses out. Then, go find your mate, who is probably watching TV, either in curious anticipation, or, if you’re super sneaky, completely oblivious to the fun that will ensue. Once you know where he’s at, walk past him on your way to go get the platter of desert and the bottle of wine. This will get his attention. Then walk past him again with the full platter. Stop right in front of him and ask in your sexiest, come-and-get-it way, “want some desert?” He’ll follow.

Now I’m not going to go into much detail on what will follow, because I know you’re all smart , but here are some suggestions:

-Have your lover get ‘more comfortable’ and relax on the bed. Pour him some wime and feed him your desert items.
-Ask if he’d like you to rub his shoulders. This is where the massage candle comes into play, but you can just use massage oil too.
-Relax and have fun!

If you live in one of those warm places in and have some isolation, this would be awesome outdoors too.

So, that my friends is my indoor, late night desert picnic. And, although it’s welcome fun anytime of year, for me, it’s a perfect distraction when the next April snow hits (yes, I said snow, in April…that’ what happens when you live in Minnesota).

Now go forth, get some lingerie, wine &  fruit and have some indoor picnic fun!

If you’re getting bored with vanilla sex and the urge to experiment with a little BDSM naughtiness is upon you, Sleeping Dreamer’s BDSM kit at EdenFantasys Adult Store is the perfect toy kit to give you a taste of something new. The kit includes, your choice of 9 styles of nipple clamps, 11 styles of paddles and 8 styles of restraints. The best part is you pick your own favorite from each category and get all three in one package (and it’s 15% off through April 14, 2009). It’s the perfect way to add some sprinkles to your sex life.

Now, go and find the perfect toppings for you and your lover.

Oh yeah, and don’t forget the cherry…

Please help me out and tell me what you want by taking a quick survey. You’ll get 35% off at Madame Bella – lingerie that demands attention as a Thank You!

But, why are boots the best? What can they do for you?

That, my friend, is up to you. But I know what they do for me–When I’m looking to spice things up in the bedroom, a pair of thigh highs in my favorite color provide a hot assist. When I’m in the mood for wearing an cute pair of skinny jeans and a leather vest, cowboy boots are there for me. There is a pair of boots for every mood.

I also know, that sometimes, between getting the kids to school and myself to work, making sure we’re all fed and clothed and homework is done; we’ll just say sexy is not on the top of my mind. So, if a simple pair of boots helps me achieve that sexy feeling, then a pair of boots it shall be…