I also try and treat myself to a little something on this special day each year. Yes, we all deserve to treat ourselves now and again, and Mother’s Day is one of those perfect opportunities. And, when it comes to treating myself, I like to get in touch with my feminine side–lingerie, particularly lingerie of the leather persuasion, helps me get there.

If treating yourself to something that makes you feel like the sexy mama that you are, you should check out the new listings at MadameBella – lingerie that demands attention. The ‘Featured Products’ on the home page include the newest listings (and include the Leather 1/4 Cup Corset pictured). Or, maybe, after the kids are in bed, a nice relaxing bath with Massage Oils that dissolve in water or a lots and lots of bubble’s from a deliciously scented Bubble Bath and some candles…

Whatever you choose to do to treat yourself on Mother’s Day, I wish all of my fellow Moms out there a Happy Mom’s–Motherhood Rocks!

The good news is, sex is free, and it’s fun! Plus, although new lingerie, toys and props are nice additions, there are plenty of things around the house that you can use to liven up any evening. Following are a few ideas I’ve put together and categorized by ‘type.’ I know there are plenty more, the important thing is to be creative to keep that budget in-line while still keeping things in the bedroom hot

Romance/Mood Setting Items:

Candles – Most everyone has at least one candle around the house, but most likely more. Just gather ‘em all together and create your own candle-lit love den.
Lotion – I own like 5+ different kinds of scented lotions, and I think most women do. Rubbing each other down is a great way to get in some touch time.
Baby Oil – If you have kids, you inevitably have a bottle of this laying around. It makes a nice massage oil.
Flowers – For those of you with a garden in bloom, bundle up some flowers in a vase and add them to the aforementioned, candle-lite love den.
Bubble Bath – If you happen to be lucky enough to have a bathtub that holds two comfortably, fill ‘er up and soak together. Otherwise pamper your lover with a nice hot bath followed-by a relaxing massage.

Sexy Stuff:

Lingerie – whatever you already have is still just as hat as when you first got it, so make sure to use those sexy pieces in your collection.
His Clothes – Does he have a neck-tie, or a button down shirt? Or maybe jacket? If you wear something of his with nothing underneath…well you get the idea.
Apron – Of course this has a hint of the whole french maid thing, but if you have an apron, why not put it to use for more than cooking?
Heels – If you’ve got some sexy heels, remember they’re good for bedroom use as well. Pair them with lingerie, or his neck-time, or that apron…or nothing

Sexy Food:

Whip Cream – Yeah, yeah, I know, but it is sexy, and it’s nice to pair as a dip of you’re going to use it to feed to your lover (see, you though I was going to suggest eating it off them…well you could do that too).
Chocolate – Chocolate, to me, is heavenly and those who feed it to me deserve special attention, perhaps your mate feels the same way?
Fruit – chocolate covered strawberries come to mind, perhaps with whip cream. Or grapes. Feeding each other sexy food (and sipping on wine) is a nice way to begin romantic alone time.
Ice – Ice is best for use during the summer (for those of us in cooler climates). Running a cool cube across your lover body is a sexy way to cool them down.

For those who like Restraints:

Neck ties – After making your entrance in nothing but his neck tie, put it to use. A tie works well to tie arms together or to bedposts.
Scarves – Scarves look pretty and, just like a neck tie, work wonderfully to tie things together. They also serve well as blindfolds.
Belts – A great multitasker (see ‘For those who like Spanking’).
Dish Towels – I’d pair one of those white linen, embroidered dish towels with an apron for a complete cooking theme–they work as blindfolds or as ties. You could even incorporate food–a blindfolded taste test, or maybe tie your lovers arms behind their back and feed them chocolate covered strawberries.

For those who like Spanking:

Belts – Leather belts are always great for supplying that spine-tingling sting that some of us love.
Wooden Spoon – Another possible addition to that kitchen theme
Brush – A perfect paddle-like tool that provides lots of control for the spanker, and lots of sparks for the spankee.

Remember, sex is one important element that helps couples keep the connection, allowing their relationship to grow together. Despite the economy, we have to find ways to get that alone time we need, even on a budget.

I encourage all of you to get creative and have some fun exploring romantic, sexy ideas that cost little to nothing.

Overall I give it a thumbs up, it’s a great way to spice up a massage.

Rainbow Nights Paddle
Next, the Rainbow nights paddle. It’s black leather with a cool embroidered pattern on one side and is visually, very appealing. It’s easy to handle and the spankings provided are the perfect sting, ranging from a little spark to an electrifying slap– the spanker can easily control the force, providing as much or as little as required. If your an entry level spanker, or more advanced, this paddle is non-intimidating and serves its purpose beautifully.

I give it another thumbs up, as a nice addition to any spanking connoisseurs collection.

Thigh and Wrist Cuff Set
We’ll close out the reviews with a nice little restraint. This Thigh and Wrist Cuff Set was lots of fun and was very comfortable. The neoprene was durable and the velcro was strong. They are adjustable, which worked well for my curvaceous thighs. The clips that attached the cuff part to the thigh part did there job well, however, I had more freedom of movement than I expected. I couldn’t reach up, but I could easily reach myself . I also like that because they are not permanently attached together, each of the pieces could be used separately with other accessories.

If your looking for good multi-use restraints, and aren’t concerned with the looseness of the range of movement, this is a great set. Another thumbs up here.

I purchased each of these fun toys at <a href=”http://www.edenfantasys.com/#pcode-CG7″>EdenFantasys adult toys store</a>. They provide a wide variety of toys and accessories from mild to wild, as well as lots of great information. When you’re ready to try these or any other toys to enhance your sex life, I encourange you to check ‘em out.

Anyway, while I wait for true, consistent Spring days to arrive, I like to dream up indoor ‘picnics’ of my own. The following is my late night desert picnic. It’s great for anytime of the day, but if you have kids, it’s perfect for once they’ve fallen asleep.

What you’ll need:
-Suntouched edible massage candles. I recommend some additional candles as well, to ensure a romantic mood.

-One of your favorite pieces of lingerie. Something like this Black & Red Chiffon Baby Doll is perfect.
-A selection of fresh fruit, including chocolate covered strawberries, just cuz they’re super hot . Make sure not to select something too heavy or it’ll disrupt the ‘activities’ that should follow desert.
-A bottle of wine.
-Music is optional, but something instrumental in the background is always romantic.

To make sure you’re ready when the moment is right, prepare your fruit platter eariler in day, or the night before, and store it in the fridge. Then, once the time has approached the first thing you’ll do is get all fancied up. Put on your hot lingerie, sex up your hair and make sure your make-up is all smoldery. Next, set-up and light all your candles and get the wine glasses out. Then, go find your mate, who is probably watching TV, either in curious anticipation, or, if you’re super sneaky, completely oblivious to the fun that will ensue. Once you know where he’s at, walk past him on your way to go get the platter of desert and the bottle of wine. This will get his attention. Then walk past him again with the full platter. Stop right in front of him and ask in your sexiest, come-and-get-it way, “want some desert?” He’ll follow.

Now I’m not going to go into much detail on what will follow, because I know you’re all smart , but here are some suggestions:

-Have your lover get ‘more comfortable’ and relax on the bed. Pour him some wime and feed him your desert items.
-Ask if he’d like you to rub his shoulders. This is where the massage candle comes into play, but you can just use massage oil too.
-Relax and have fun!

If you live in one of those warm places in and have some isolation, this would be awesome outdoors too.

So, that my friends is my indoor, late night desert picnic. And, although it’s welcome fun anytime of year, for me, it’s a perfect distraction when the next April snow hits (yes, I said snow, in April…that’ what happens when you live in Minnesota).

Now go forth, get some lingerie, wine &  fruit and have some indoor picnic fun!

If you’re getting bored with vanilla sex and the urge to experiment with a little BDSM naughtiness is upon you, Sleeping Dreamer’s BDSM kit at EdenFantasys Adult Store is the perfect toy kit to give you a taste of something new. The kit includes, your choice of 9 styles of nipple clamps, 11 styles of paddles and 8 styles of restraints. The best part is you pick your own favorite from each category and get all three in one package (and it’s 15% off through April 14, 2009). It’s the perfect way to add some sprinkles to your sex life.

Now, go and find the perfect toppings for you and your lover.

Oh yeah, and don’t forget the cherry…

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Massage is fulfilling on multiple levels. It requires touching your partner, which is a great way to build closeness in your relationship. It allows you to help your partner relax and feel good, a fulfilling activity for both of you. And, it often leads to more intimate touching that you’ll both fully enjoy in your relaxed state.

Plus, even if you have kids in the house, some massage time together is easy to fit in after the little ones are asleep.

So, when you’re not in the mood for a spanking, get out the Massage & Relaxation Stuff and get rubbed the right way…

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BTW–I recommend serving a couple rounds of Jameson by candlelight–I guarantee the luck of the Irish will be with you

Please help me out and tell me what you want by taking a quick survey. You’ll get 35% off at Madame Bella – lingerie that demands attention as a Thank You!

There may not be an over abundance of female super heroes (at least that are well known) but for those that are, they get totally sexy outfits. The Silk Spectre’s (I and II) are just a couple. I was completely jealous of Silk Spectre II’s look, and those boots—you know I want them.

I’ve got a couple of options for obtaining my own super hero look:

1. I could get my own Silk Spectre Costume

2. I could try one of the following pieces and pair them with my own hot boots:


Maybe I’ll just go for all three

One of my favorites, if that isn’t obvious, tends toward the BDSM side of things. For some, those four letters trigger a plethora of emotions, from excitement, to fear, to curiosity. If you are one that is curious enough to experiment, there are many ways to introduce the idea to your partner, as suggested in ‘S&M for Beginners’ by Ky Henderson. You should also remember to start out only with what you’re comfortable and make sure that you and your partner clearly communicate what is ok and what is not.

To start off, I recommend trying a blindfold. Depriving the sense of sight heightens other senses for the submissive partner, increasing the feelngs of pleasure. Or, perhaps it’s always been your secret fantasy to have your lover tie you to the bedposts and have his/her way with you. Simple restraints can make that fantasy a reality, leading to an overwhelming experience of release through trust.

For more information on experimenting with BDSM, check out:

• - S&M for Beginners, by Ky Henderson
• - Naughty Tricks and Sexy Tips: A Couple’s Guide to Uninhibited Sexual Pleasure
• - Leather Blindfolds
• - Leather Masks
• - Restraints

The Sunday Spank is here to help and I think these Leather Arm Guards with Buckles are the perfect accessory to assist in keeping things inline. You could pair them with a Leather Riveted Open Cup Bustier or a more modest Leather Corset with Lace Up Detail & Boning, or something from your own collection.

No matter how you choose to show your affection, just make sure you do it—trust me, it’ll relieve some stress.